Showing posts with label babywearing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label babywearing. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

By the third baby...

...everything starts to wear out. This is my sling. My padded ring sling, used from Caroline's infancy, tore a few weeks ago when I was tugging on the fabric to put Lucy in it. And I had just mended some very small tears around the padded part. Thankfully I had the Maya Wrap as backup when this huge tear appeared. But the Maya has lots more fabric and no padding, which I find more difficult to use for little babies... but thankfully, my friend Beth has a Nojo sling, also padded, which she's letting me borrow temporarily so I can decide if I need to ask for another padded sling for Christmas!

And this is a tear in our sheet (next to a ridiculously adorable baby). Again, I tugged on the fabric (to make it nice and smooth), and it tore. Good thing we have four more sets of sheets!

And speaking of the bed and wearing out its ten year old linens, remember how I kinda ruined our comforter by giving birth on it? My mom insisted on buying us a new one to replace the old one she'd thrown in the garbage:

How does it look?

And a view in natural light...

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Pretty Baby Pics

A bunch of Lucy photos for those who like to ooh and aah over baby pictures... this one is when she was almost six weeks old, wearing a cute little dress and matching sweater that my mom got for her.

Here I am holding Lucy... this was the weekend that the older girls went to spend a few days with Chris's parents. We'd gone out for a dinner date to Mellow Mushroom and then to a talk with dessert and coffee at our church... which is why I'm actually wearing makeup and have my hair done, ha ha. That's only been happening on days when I leave the house, and the makeup's been forgotten a few times. I've got to get a haircut... if I don't have a chance to do my hair, it is out of control. The lady who cut it before Lucy was born did not listen to what I said about layers not working with my hair!

Lucy at six weeks old

Wow, makeup in this photo too! Must have been a Sunday and I'd been to church. I love how babies look wearing gowns... like little legless things, hee hee.

Lucy in the sling, probably looking at a ceiling fan

Lucy with her adoring fans (not ceiling fans this time)

so sweet...


Tim, is this an early Bob face, possibly??

Lucy is eight weeks old here. In trying to decide who she resembles, I look at these and think she looks like me in my baby pictures, and a bit like my brother Mike's baby pictures...

Leaning forward on her own here... she has a strong neck. Tummy time - who needs it? ;)

looking a lot like me and Mike's baby pictures here

eight weeks old, showing off her cloth diaper. my only baby still able to fit in newborn-sized diaper covers at close to two months old.




how to manage taking your older children outside on a chilly, windy day while keeping the baby warm (until she resists being in the sling while awake and wants to nurse, which was managed in the sling while she was still wearing her coat...) - and the mug is how I stay warm, by drinking tea!

Two months old today! Still wondering what color her hair will be... it's not fallen out completely yet like the older girls' hair did when they were babies. Her eyes are still blue but have lightened up... thinking maybe they'll stay that way.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Babies with Reflux?

There are so many babies diagnosed with reflux lately... I have been thinking off and on about why this may be. We know that formula-fed infants are more likely to have reflux than breastfed infants, but we still hear of so many breastfed infants with reflux as well. Apparently reflux was not common in babies 20 or more years ago, as my mother has commented, "What is up with all these babies with reflux now?" She just didn't know of any babies having reflux when she was raising babies throughout the 1980s.

So, one thought that immediately came to mind: The Back to Sleep campaign (which I believe was introduced around 1990, but don't quote me on that). Medical professionals used to advise parents to place their babies on the bellies to sleep, but research has shown that position to be associated with a much higher risk of SIDS. So it is now advised that babies are placed on their backs to sleep. Lying on the back is a position in which reflux is more likely to be irritating to the throat, since the saliva can pool at the back of the throat easily that way.

Now, the Back to Sleep campaign is not a bad thing in and of itself. If parents are going to be putting their infants to sleep in separate rooms by themselves, then it is safest for them to be on their backs - they are less likely to have a stop-breathing episode while on their backs.

Babies also spend a large amount of time on their backs at other times, not just overnight and at naps. Baby swings, strollers, and infant car seats also keep them in this position more often. Sometimes babies spend so much time on their backs that the backs of their heads get so flat that they must be fitted for a special helmet to help their head regain its proper shape. Surely this is not natural, right? But it is not surprising if a baby spends 10 hours on its back overnight, a few hours each day napping in that position, and then more time on its back in swings, infant seats, and strollers. The "bucket" infant car seat is something else that is a relatively new invention. In the days when my parents were raising babies, the car seat stayed in the car. The child was always removed from the seat to go in and out of buildings. Now, it is relatively easy to keep an infant in a carseat for large chunks of time each day. So, babies are spending more of both their days and nights on their backs now than they were in the 80s and earlier.

To counteract this flat-head syndrome, the "experts" began recommending something that is referred to as "tummy time." This is intentionally placing the baby on its tummy while awake, to encourage the lifting of the head and pushing up with the arms, and also getting the back of the head off a surface.

In addition to the time spent on their backs, babies have other things which might be exacerbating the reflux nowadays. Scheduled feeding is one thing that comes to mind. With a breastfed baby, the initial milk is thinner and gradually gets thicker and more filling as the feeding progresses. Thus, the longer a mother goes between nursings, the more foremilk there is at the next feeding. The fattier hindmilk is what the baby receives further into a feeding. Cutting off a feeding too soon may cause a baby to miss most of the hindmilk, and spacing his feedings out to once every three or four hours gives the mother's body more time to build the foremilk back up. Frequent removal of milk causes the baby to continue to get more hindmilk at each feeding. Getting too much watery foremilk and not enough of the thicker hindmilk could contribute to reflux symptoms. Sometimes doctors recommend that mothers thicken their milk by pumping it and adding rice cereal - but introducing solid foods (of which rice cereal is one) prior to about 6 months increases the baby's risk for allergies. Rice cereal is also likely to cause constipation in babies, so even if it seems to help with the reflux, it may cause other problems. Nursing the baby more frequently could aid in this. In thinking of nursing as more than just a set feeding time, mothering through breastfeeding leads to nursing for comfort and thus being done more frequently.

Mothering through breastfeeding also tends to include close contact with the mother, which includes the infant being carried around both while awake and while napping. An upright position in a sling might be helpful in reducing reflux. Neither of my children really liked to lay down in the sling unless they were nursing, but the upright tummy-to-tummy position was great for them.

Babies who co-sleep with their nursing mothers end up spending time on their sides at night as they nurse. Also, the mother may switch them from side to side during the night. Therefore, less time is spent on their backs even while they are sleeping overnight.

One last thought is that a bottlefed baby is being fed on his back in a reclined position, whereas the breastfed baby is more on his side, and in the natural position has his legs and belly lower than his head.

So, in looking at all this, it appears that it may be that our straying from the biological norms of infant care contributes to a higher incidence of reflux. Rather than introducing other solutions, perhaps we could go back to the root of the issue and make changes there? I am not saying that this is definitely why babies have reflux more often lately... I am sure there are co-sleeping babies who never spend time on their backs and are carried upright and still seem to have some reflux symptoms. But I haven't heard any speculation on why it is that so many babies are diagnosed with reflux lately, so I thought I would do a little speculating myself. Any other ideas to add? Has anyone read anything which discusses potential reasons for this infant reflux epidemic?

Saturday, October 03, 2009

Why do I...

... wear my babies? Why do I carry them in slings instead of car seat buckets, strollers, and shopping carts?

The short answer - because I hated carrying that heavy bucket seat! How do people just carry it with the handle over their forearms like that, anyway?

This one is pretty easy to explain... I do it for the closeness. This benefits both the baby and the parent. Especially with babies under age one, this helps them to be present with what you are doing and content - you can move about your household tasks while the baby comfortably observes, naps, and nurses. Most young babies like the rhythmic motion and the swaddled feeling that a sling provides. Some prefer to be upright, others like to lay down - especially when nursing in the sling.

I have found that the sling replaces the need for all the other gadgets: baby swing, exersaucer, playpen, stroller, bassinette (because they end up napping in the sling so much), bouncy seat (although that one did come in handy when I had to set the baby down, like to take a shower!)... all I needed was the sling. Once my babies were older, 6-9 months, they enjoyed the Ergo back carrier, which allowed me to work around th house even though they were somewhat bigger and could get in the way on the front. Riding on my hip in the sling also worked well by about 7 or 8 months, as long as they didn't grab what i was working with out of my hands!

Babies want to be in close physical contact with their mothers... they lived inside our bodies for so many months, and that is what they know. So they crave this on the outside as well, especially in that first year before they really become mobile and want to explore their surroundings more. They like the rhythm, the warmth, and the closeness to their mother's heartbeat. They have such immature systems in the early months - the closeness and movement helps them to be better "organized," as Dr. Bill Sears puts it. Sling babies tend to cry less and be able to devote their energy to growing and learning as they observe the world around them.

I wrote a post before on how attachment parenting does not have to mean child-centered parenting. I think wearing the baby goes along with this too... a baby who is spending lots of time daily in the sling is not the center of attention... he is just "along for the ride," having his needs attended to while the mother also goes about meeting the needs of the rest of the family. Baby is not moved from one baby-entertaining-device to another in efforts to keep him content... he is "entertained" in a way that is pretty mindless for the adult wearing him... reminds me of Jean Leidloff's "benign neglect" concept.

babywearing can go along with skin-to-skin contact as well... a wrap-style carrier can be especially good for this. "Kangaroo Care" allows the baby to be skin-to-skin on the mother's chest, which can be especially helpful for premature babies to regulate their breathing and help them sleep better and grow better. With a wrap, the mother can also move around and give the baby the familiar sensation of movement. I have been reading more on how Kangaroo Care is beneficial to all newborns and wish I had realized this sooner... it would have helped me in those first nights in the hospital with my babies! All babies, premature or not, come into the world with immature systems. The reason that SIDS occurs in babies is due to their immature respiratory systems. The closeness is beneficial to all babies, whether they were born prematurely or as full-term ten pounders and anything in between.

There was a study done recently regarding stress on babies and away-facing strollers. The baby who is turned away from his caregiver tends to experience more stress than the baby who can see his caregiver. I am not sure of the exact ages of the babies in the study, but I am guessing they were under age one - a young toddler can certainly still become stressed when his mother is not visible, but he can also understand that she is still there behind him and can likely turn his head to see her. I also wonder what the findings were on newborns, who cannot focus more than a few inches away at first. It would seem that a baby worn in a sling would be even less stressed than a baby facing toward its mother. It would be interesting to see a study that included babywearing!

To wrap it up... toddlers also benefit from being worn at times, especially on long walks or places that are harder for them to navigate (like a hiking trail). They can also protest when they do not want to be in a sling or carrier... like a couple of weeks ago, I was cooking and Cecilia came into the kitchen saying, "Up, Mommy!" I put on the sling and began to pick her up, to which she yelled, "No sling!! Mommy... shirt!" This was the best way she could come up with to communicate that she wanted to be held just in my arms and not in the sling! Even if they protest atfirst, the sling ensures that the active toddler can still get holding needs met even when the adult is busy with other tasks.

And there is just nothing sweeter than a baby sleeping in your arms, head against chest, that lovely baby smell right beneath your nose... all while you are not tied to the couch, too!

Friday, September 25, 2009

It's International Babywearing Week!

Join in if you want with a post full of your own babywearing photos!

First, we have Caroline... and I can only find one photo of her with me in the sling, and it is not digital... so here's a bunch with Daddy! I really did wear her in the sling a lot, but I guess not as much as Cecilia, and I didn't take as many photos of her with me...





Dutch's rear end and Tim making guest appearances...



washing the truck

Cecilia's turn





with the sling rings in her mouth...



yep, that's her foot by her mouth



Grampa was amazed by the "legless baby" position

not my baby, but so precious!!







I will wear you while we swing wearing a pumpkin hat,
And I will wear you near this dead bobcat,
Yes, I will wear you here and there,
And I will wear you anywhere!